Based upon your feelings, just go with the flow & see what happens. The fact that u live in separate states doesn t make it an impossible situation, but rather challenging & it offers an excellent asset. They say u should go slow when developing a friendship, well, separate states allow that (actually commands it!). It is also said that the stronger the foundation is in a friendship, the bigger the chance is to develop into something far more lasting & deeper due to the friendship. They also say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I ve also heard (& believe this) friendship must come before sex & it is the only way to make a quality relationship. Otherwise, you just risk it being lust, and when that settles down, gone is the relationship. Now, don t ask where all these quotes came from as I can t identify the author for any of them, I have just heard them off and on over the years. When I was 16, I moved to Vegas from Arizona, and then at 25, I moved to Mpls, arriving 3 days before a record breaking blizzard that in my mind continued for the next 6 months. I was later amazed to see them one day loading a truck with snow to ship out, always wondered where they put it. However, I remained in an environmental shock with true brain freeze & for about 3 years as even the spring brought no relief because now there were tornadoes! So I m not sure if I would listen to my answer, I think I gained a little insanity! Later, I was promoted to the corporate office in Cincinnati, where true insanity took over my mind. Luckily, I had to travel a lot so I never did get to know the city. Seriously, I found Minneapolis to be one of the greatest cities in the nation. My career required extensive travel throughout North America so, I had a chance to view many cities. I loved Quebec, I loved Chicago, Really loved Boston & Cape Cod, but on a personal level, I also loved floating down the Apple River. Madison & LaCrosse are magnificent, but it is Mpls that has the greatest quality of life. While living in Mpls, I dated a regional technical support manager for 4 years, who lived in Grand Rapids, Michigan. We met at the regional office in Chicago & continued to meet there many times for meetings & to sail in that big ocean located downtown Chicago! Being from the desert, I never tired of the 10,000 lakes in MN, nor Lake Michigan, which when out in a sailboat with 5 foot waves, u might as well be in the ocean! I also met Jim once in West VA when I had to do a site inspection at Greenbriar & at the Homestead. So see, its your fault I m being so chatty, ur information has so many similarities that the memories just can t help but come to mind! lol One definite asset with a long-distance relationship, u can be confident he is liking you for who you are; he is attracted to your mind, rather than just your body, and that is wonderful. The kind of conversations u have are awesome & even without seeing each other, a bond is being created. Yes, there is a lot they say about young love (I don t have any quotes for it tho- lol), but you guys can overcome that as we also hear about many marriages involving high school sweethearts. The only disadvantage that I know about young love is that when we are young, we are still growing & maturing (emotionally), and everyday with the learning of new stuff, it causes change in us. As u are changing, so is he, and being apart by living in separate states, can cause a pulling apart. However, if u both continue to WANT to work thru whatever the consequences are that will come ur way, your relationship can survive. It may seem hopeless at times & it will be difficult, but not impossible. Another saying (if I may-lol), where there is a will, there is a way. Of course, I believe in Christ, so I just leave everything to Him as He is so much smarter than I am. My 22 year old daughter met a guy on Christian Mingle who lives in Utah, which from Vegas is about an 8 hour drive (I moved back to Vegas, after having her older sister & no longer willing do the required 75% travel). She struggles with the relationship because when all there is for communicating is the phone, u do get to know each other on a deeper level. She says she is very much in love with him. I m sorry I was unable to offer any real suggestions & as for what u should do, it has to be your decision. I would encourage u to talk to him about how critical it is to be open & honest with each other. Talk about the negative consequences & develop ideas to overcome them & talk about how change in one another will happen. Make a commitment to always be honest & if either of u ever feel the need to break it off, then break it off immediately rather than dragging it out, which is quite easy to do when living in different states. I wish you the very best. And if by any chance the relationship continues to grow & develop, then I have to get a wedding invite! Take Care...
