I can t help but commenting on this, although I know this isn t an answer to your question. I have herpes, and I have dated on normal dating sites with great success. I know that it s difficult to tell someone you like that you have herpes, but I ve been repeatedly surprised by how accepting people have been of my disease. Since I was diagnosed, I ve always told my lovers about my disease - always after we ve gotten to know each other and like each other, but always before we have sex. In fact, there are ways that the disease really improved my dating life. I became much slower to have sex with someone than I was before. I would really get to know them before having sex, and it meant that sex wasn t the thing that got us together. It meant that I was having sex with someone that I already cared about, and who had really chosen me, and that made it so much more special that it had been before. After the first date or two, or when we had our first "make out" session, I would always tell my dates that I wanted to take things slowly. That it was important to me that we really get to know each other and trust each other before we have sex. I would NOT tell him that I had herpes just yet, but just that, for my own reasons, I really needed us to take things slowly. If the guy didn t like that answer, then I knew that we probably weren t right for each other. After a few weeks, if we still got along and things were going well, I would tell him that the reason that I wanted to take things slowly was because I had genital herpes, and I didn t want to put him at risk. I had studied up on my disease, so I could knowledably answer all the questions that he had. I would tell him that I was on antivirals - to reduce the likelihood of transmission, that we would need to use condoms all the time, and that there would be times (when I was having an outbreak) that we couldn t have sex. I would also direct him to a great web site (link is below), so that he could learn more. I also told him that I would understand if he needed to pull back, but that I hoped that we could keep on dating. I never had anyone reject me. I think that I was so concerned about not transmitting it, and about protecting him, that he felt he could trust me. I understand that you might choose to date only people with herpes, and it does avoid that difficult conversation. But don t rule out dating people who aren t infected. Most mature, adult people who get to know you, and who know that you care enough about them to protect them as best you can, will choose to continue dating you. Good luck, whatever you decide to do.