Topics: On a dating site, I sent this guy one of the free form messages saying hello.?


How important is it to write a good online dating first email? The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life. As I discuss in my free online dating guide , successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions. Whether the first impression is in the photos you select for your profile, how you describe yourself, or the first email you write, taking time to make the best first impression is important.

For this discussion email refers to your first message in online dating. This will include whatever method the service you are using allows you to write a message to another member. It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.

This discussion is primarily for sites such as Match.com where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how match.com works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to). This advice may still be helpful for sites such as eHarmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.

1: Never ever try to unsubscribe from junk mail! Those mails are often sent randomly without knowing if they reach a real mail account. By answering such mails or trying to unsubscribe, you are letting the sender know that your account exists. Not only may he send you more junk in the future, but he will also sell your address to other spammers! 2: Yahoo has a spamguard filter, but only if multiple users report an address as spam will it be treated as such by the filter. You have a personal list for blocking addresses in spam options. If you ever receive anything from those addresses in the future, it will be deleted automatically, you won t even notice when you got some more crap from them. One problem though: the list of blocked addresses is limited to 500 and spammers often change their address. So you must sometimes delete some of the older blocked addresses to make room for new ones. Go to this link where everything is explained in detail: http://help.yahoo.com/kb/index?page=topics&y=PROD_MAIL_ML&locale=en_US&topics=TOP_ABS 3: The Federal Trade Commission (www.ftc.gov) is supposed to help you eliminate spam mails. Forward spam to: spam@uce.gov, in the subject line enter something like "unsubscribe link results in more spam", "unwanted spam message", "no unsubscribe link" or something similar. Here s how to do the forwarding bit: click the crtl key and at the same time click the "forward" button to forward a message as an attachment, mac users should click the "apple" key and click "forward" simultaneously. When the FTC gets your mail, they will look into the matter and when they find out who the spamming source is, they will take legal actions. https://www.ftccomplaintassistant.gov/FTC_Wizard.aspx?Lang=en 4: Check Mailwasher, it helps to eliminate spam from your inbox. Set up your email account(s) in MailWasher and hit the "Check Mail" button. It then downloads all new message headers and displays message details alongside each one (priority, subject, from, to, etc.). Any email that MailWasher considers to be spam is highlighted for easy sorting. Two checkboxes are located next to each message header: "Delete" and "Bounce". If you click "Delete" the email will be marked for deletion, click "Bounce" and the mail will be marked for bouncing - a fake "address not found" email will be sent to the sender. Once you have decided what to bounce and delete, click "Process Mail" to get it done and your mail client launched for downloading all accepted emails. MailWasher has a "blacklist" and a "friends list" to enter good and bad email addresses. Addresses in the blacklist are marked for deletion, and addresses in the friends list will be marked as okay. Filters can be set to increase MailWasher s effectiveness. You can have email addressed to "undisclosed recipients" automatically deleted and bounced for example. Note: the program is free but limited to one email account. MW Pro supports multiple mail accounts. http://www.mailwasher.net/ Interesting read about mail filters and tools for various systems: http://lifehacker.com/5713914/how-to-wipe-out-spam-email-in-your-inbox http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-spam_techniques - Wiki about anti-spam techniques, scroll down to "statistical content filtering, Bayesian spam filtering" - mailwasher is one of these free tools.

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An online dating site is an interesting portal to meet new people, and join groups with like-minded individuals. It is an opportunity to dip your feet into the dating.