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So, last time I talked about the dreaded Friend Zone , we established that The Friend Zone was, well basically you being judged as “unfuckable.” Sometimes it’s a legitimate lack of attraction, sometimes it’s like the Onion article “But If We Started Dating, It Would Ruin Our Friendship.”
But hey, my telling you that the Friend Zone doesn’t really exist makes for good discussion but it doesn’t help those of you who feel like you’re getting stuck in it anyway. It may be a fictional construct, but you’re still getting the dreaded “Let’s Just Be (Platonic) Friends” speech. And let’s face it, there’s no quicker way to make a man’s ego shrivel like a slug doused in salt than the LJBF speech.
So, what does it take to avoid the Friend Zone? Assuming you don’t have Bradley Cooper’s hair, Brad Pitt’s grin, Paul Newman’s piercing blue eyes and Ryan Reynold’s six-pack abs, you’re going to have to be willing to take some risks. Part of what got you into the Friend Zone’s event horizon is that you were most likely playing it safe. You were unwilling to make the decisions that were required, ones that meant risking rejection. You were passive for too long and now you’re going to have to work harder and risk more.