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I'm in a new relationship, around four months old. While we both approve of one another's close opposite-sex friends who came into our lives before we came into each other’s, I am not able to accept his new female friends whom he informed me he would most probably get close to.

My boyfriend has been texting many different girls after entering his university, and I am not totally fine with it. He says it isn't very healthy to limit possible friendships (whether it's of the same gender or the opposite gender). This clash has caused slight tension because he thinks that I don't trust him. For my part, I would not get close to guys who are already attached because I do not want their girlfriends to get the wrong idea and do not want them to feel uncomfortable.

How should I approach this issue? Are there boundaries that should be drawn with opposite-sex friends once you're attached?

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I''m in a new relationship, around four months old. While we both approve of one another''s close opposite-sex friends who came into our lives before we came into each other’s, I am not able to accept his new female friends whom he informed me he would most probably get close to.

My boyfriend has been texting many different girls after entering his university, and I am not totally fine with it. He says it isn''t very healthy to limit possible friendships (whether it''s of the same gender or the opposite gender). This clash has caused slight tension because he thinks that I don''t trust him. For my part, I would not get close to guys who are already attached because I do not want their girlfriends to get the wrong idea and do not want them to feel uncomfortable.

How should I approach this issue? Are there boundaries that should be drawn with opposite-sex friends once you''re attached?

If you really love him, you could give it another shot, but if you find out that they have something going on, just leave him because sooner or later he will see that he did the stupidest decision by choosing the wrong girl. I think that his friend doesn t really love him, she is just trying to provoke you to make you feel inferior. i think that people should have a friend from the opposite sex, but they should keep it as friends only (especially if you are dating!)

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so long as both people recognize that the friendship is platonic. if either of them enters into the friendship with ulterior motives then no, they shouldn t be friends. what constitutes cheating is investing emotion, energy, and time into a relationship that should be directed at the primary relationship and not the friendship and hiding the friendship from the partner. Basically your opposite sex friend shouldn t be confiding things to you that he should be confiding to his GF and if you are a platonic friend then you should not be a secret to the GF and should be making an effort to befriend the GF as well.

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A reader asked: Is it true that girls who have more guy friends than girl friends are less likely to have anxiety and depression? What does research say about girls who have more guy friends than girl friends?

Interesting question. Before I respond in more detail, I’ll cut to the chase: In my review of the existing research, I couldn’t find a study that directly answers your question about whether having more opposite-sex (OS) than same-sex (SS) friends raises psychological health in women. However, this is what we do know from the research:

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It sounds to me like you're young, gay and not ready for a serious relationship with another man. It took me until I was 28 to begin to realize that I was almost ready for a serious relationship.

I'm 32 now and if I were you I'd be cautious, patient, then go on a vacation somewhere where I could give in to some of my urges (SAFELY!!!) to see if that helped break through some of the confusion to help me learn and find out who I truly am.

The only reason guys have friends who are girls is because they are attracted to the girl in some way. Now, that doesn t necessarily mean that they want to have sex with you, but there is some sort of connection, and usually, that connection will get stronger and stronger in a friendship; thus, feelings of attraction emerge. Honestly, it s really hard to be best friends with someone of the opposite sex. Not too long ago, i dated my best friend, a girl, and everything was great, but after the relationship ended, our friendship collapsed. We ve been trying to be friends for the past month, but it just doesn t work because we still have those awkward feelings for each other, at least i do, and we are consistently mean and cold to each other. Friendships are very difficult with the opposite sex so take things slow. Good Luck

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