Topics: My Ukrainian fiance' refuses to remove her profile from Dating/Marriage website, what should I do?
While some may be kicking off the new year by upping their efforts to find love, others may find it's actually time to take a break from online dating. It's the peak season for dating apps until Valentine's Day, but all the clicking and swiping just doesn't hold a significant enough return on investment for some of us, even when that return is at its highest.
I personally have a love-hate relationship with online dating. When I first joined OkCupid five years ago, I thought it was pretty much the greatest thing ever. All the messages in my inbox gave me a self-esteem boost, and all the dates made my life exciting. But after a while, I got addicted, and the app became a time-suck. Plus, as I've gotten older, my standards have gotten higher, and I can no longer find several people per week I want to date.
Over the past five years, I've deleted and reinstalled my dating apps five times, and I don't see that as a sign of wishy-washiness. It's a sign that some stages of my life are well-suited for online dating and some are not (and that it worked, since relationships accounted for two of my deleting-and-reinstalling sprees).