You may well be projecting as being needy, or a nice guy type, when most women, despite what they SAY, are attracted to men who exude strength, confidence, and competence; a REAL MAN; someone who would protect her and her children. View http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/e.html and page 1 about social anxiety, and get the recommended free email material, then decide. See the post about dating, and some conversation topics, on page P. Check out: http://www.wikihow.com/Special:GoogSearch?cx=008953293426798287586%3Amr-gwotjmbs&cof=FORID%3A10&ie=UTF-8&q=how+to+get+a+first+date#1137 Read: From Boys to Men: Spiritual Rites of Passage in an Indulgent Age by Bret Stephenson, & The Rites of Passage for Males Manual: Just About Everything a Young Man Needs to Know About Life and Manhood by D. Harold Greene, & Journeyman: Rites of Passage, Mentoring and Male Culture in America, & The Men from the Boys: Rites of Passage in Male America by Ray Raphael, from your bookstore, or enter: "rite of passage; males" in the searchbar at amazon.com for more media. Google: "rite of passage; males (your location)" but check out some of the opinions of the previous inductees first. I advise then employing DeAngelo s tactics; resolve to approach a number of women, but without any expectations, or pressure; you just want to meet them, and see what they re like. Anticipate multiple rejections; it happens to all of us. Accept it more as a learning experience, and use it to refine your technique. Ask them all where are some good places to meet women, locally, besides pubs, clubs, and bars (gyms and supermarkets spring to mind; church groups, even if not the religious type; yoga, aerobics, dance lessons: salsa, ballroom, etc., horse riding ); where do they go where they either seek, or don t mind being approached? Google: "speed dating; (your location); view http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Lasting-Im… Try eHarmony.com to find someone compatible. Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy, or, if not an option, hypnosisdownloads.com has ones on: Flirting Confidence, Attractive Women, conversation starter, making small talk, overcome shyness and social anxiety, & meeting people. Be aware of your body language; change yours if necessary so thay you will be perceived in a way which optimises your chances. Work on it; practice makes perfect, and even if only 1% of your attempts are successful; a very low figure, you should still be successful within several weeks. Whether or not she is a keeper" you will have to find out for yourself.